Saturday, July 31st, 2010 at
4:53 pm
My boyfriend I have been together for just about three years now. In the beginning, we were having tons of sex, but that has changed dramatically this past year. We hardly ever have sex. I have tried everything, literally. I have gone to strip clubs, watched pornos, bought stuff from a sex shop. I have tried different positions, I actually bought a 365 different sex position book and we looked it over together to pick out positions we liked. I have gone to bed naked, woke him up early by trying to give oral. I try sending him sexy texts, leaving dirty messages, even sending provocative photos. Nothing works. He says he is too tired, or his famous line, "in the morning," then in the morning he says it’s too early, maybe later.
I am at a total loss here. Every other aspect of our relationship is wonderful. We take lots of vacations, we go out all the time, I sleep at his house almost every night, or he sleeps at mine. There is no time for him to be cheating.
I am getting sick of taking care of things myself, and am just at the point of cheating or walking out.
I have tried talking to him and he says that it is all i think about, or he doesn’t take me seriously. I am about to lose it, but I don’t want to do anything stupid.
Someone please give me some good advice. Is sex really this important and should I be trying this hard???
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Sunday, July 18th, 2010 at
12:01 pm
My husband and I married in May 08, we had been together for 3 years, and will be 4 this May. We have struggled with trust because I hid smoking cig. from him and he found out and blew up. I moved out for a week and then I obviously moved back in. Things were great, working through things… well he is deployed at the moment and finally EMAILED me telling me that he did in fact cheat on me september of last year and didn’t want to tell me because he thought I wouldn’t marry him and he didn’t want to take that chance. He was taking a class for 3 weeks and met an older woman, a nurse. She I guess was helping him through the issues we had and what not. He claims it was to reach revenge and because he wasn’t 100% if he wanted to marry me because I lied about smoking so who knows what else I lie about, I’m broke and in debt because of college, and yeah which aren’t huge issues to me but I guess it wasn’t up to me. His class was finished but told me that he had a 24 hour shift, he left the house in his class clothes, took a change of clothes and met her behind a restaurant and picked her up and they drove 45 mins to another town to go to dinner and a movie and on their way home pulled off and got a hotel room. It makes me sick. He got home and I the dumb ass woke up and went to kiss him hello and he told me he was dirty from work and threw his clothes into the wash, jumped in the shower and crawled into bed with me. I asked specific questions, I’m not sure how to handle all this… I wanted to know her name, where she worked, the positions, what they talked about. I was so trusting that I knew he texted her and asked him to stop and he was like okay I’m sorry she’s just been a lot of help and I was like no I feel uncomfortable. I"M AN IDIOT! No one ever thinks that they’ll be in this position and always claim they’ll do something if it happened to them, but oh my god! I never thought I’d say this but I’d be so much better about it all if it was some stupid bimbo downtown and he was wasted… but he knows this woman, he built a relationship with her, she told him she was falling for him and he ended it right after they slept together. I guess it only happened once but isn’t that the "typical line." The whole thing he didn’t want to tell me because of the chance I’d say no to marrying him… I feel like I was somehow trapped if that makes any sense. I don’t know what to do. I’m sure I’ll get ripped for saying this but I really am in love with him and he’s my best friend… does everyone betray you in life? What do I do? How do I go about this? I’m looking into seeing a counselor but, like he comes home soon and I feel this has really ruined things obviously… I keep thinking how will I be able to have sex with him or if we go into a different position I’ll be thinking of them… this has messed my mind up! HELP!
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Wednesday, July 7th, 2010 at
4:50 pm
I need the best ones you got for a play I’m attempting to write for an advanced literature class.
Or even just plain old pickup lines. The cheesier the better, though let’s try not to let them get too dirty. Thanks!
Example:
Line: "If I could rearrange the alphabet, I’d put U and I together."
Response: "Oh really? Because I’d put together F and U."
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